Disclaimer:  Any of you blog readers out there in the Blog Stratosphere who are not Mormon will probably not understand this blog post.  However, you Mormon women, especially you Utah Mormon women, will understand exactly what I’m talking about here.

This time of year, all over the world, LDS women are celebrating the anniversary of the organization of the Relief Society.  I am currently serving as a counsellor in our RS presidency, and I was in charge of our RS birthday celebration.

This was the first time I have been in charge of one of these events, although I’ve attended many of them in Utah.  All of those that I’ve attended have been held on a weeknight evening.  An entire committee of women would have spent months in preparation.  The Sunday before the celebration, a lovely hand-made invitation would be handed out and a few days before the event, a cute reminder would magically appear on the door of every sister in the ward.  A delicious dinner would be served, prepared by members of the committee.  Other committee members would have spent most of the day putting up lavish decorations that they had spent weeks making.  The room would have been transformed into something that looked like it came straight from the pages of Martha Stewart Magazine.

The program would consist of semi-professional musicians performing beautiful musical numbers and speakers that could have come straight from BYU Education Week.  At the end of the evening, the sisters would go home with some sort of hand-made party favor that would include a quotation from the evening and probably something chocolate.  The evening would be inspiring to all who attend.

But I don’t live in Utah anymore.  I now live in Taipei where things can’t be done like they are done in Utah.  For one thing, all of our RS activities have to be done on Sunday afternoon, immediately after church.  Many women in our ward are Filipina domestic workers; and for most of them, Sunday is their only day off.  If our activities were held on weeknights a large number of our sisters would never be able to attend.  Because activities are held right after church, we have very little time to set up and decorate.  Also, whereas in Utah, an event like this would require a large committee of women, in our case, the committee consisted of me and one other sister (who coincidentally is also named Erin.  We were the Erin Committee.)

Here is how our RS birthday celebration went:  There were no hand-made invitations.  The invitation was given orally during the RS announcements the week before.  With the help of our husbands, Erin and I quickly set up tables in the cultural hall during the Sunday School hour.  We needed seven tables to accommodate the forty-five or so women and young women we expected to attend. (We have eight beautiful young women in our ward.)  Unfortunately, our RS owns only one set of six dark red tablecloths, so one table didn’t even have a tablecloth. (It is my recollection that my former ward in Utah had six or seven sets of tablecloths in various colors, each set consisting of twelve to fifteen tablecloths.)  Each table was decorated with the paper products from which the women were eating.  The tableclothless serving tables were decorated with the food that was served–nothing else.  Sisters signed up to bring either a crock pot of soup or some sort of side dish.  The ward sprung for rolls and cake.  The food that was brought included dishes from the Philippines, China, Korea, Mexico, the US, Taiwan and Italy.  One sister brought a pot of boiled chicken soup–with an entire chicken carcass, skin and all, still in the pot.  (Not very common in Utah, but quite a hit in Taiwan.)  There was even a lovely hot dog soup.

After dinner, we moved to a large room on the 4th floor. (Our building serves as the stake center for three stakes and consists of four floors, two chapels and three underground parking levels.)  Erin and I spent a grand total of seven minutes decorating the room.  I won’t embarrass myself or Erin by describing the decorations.  But in our defense, neither of us had any idea where to go to buy any cute or crafty supplies to make Martha Stewart decorations.  So everything came from our houses and they were pathetic.

We started the program by reciting the RS Theme.  I love, love, love hearing women recite this.  And hearing it recited together by women from so many nationalities with so many different accents sent chills down my spine and brought tears to my eyes.  Our adorable young women then recited the YW Theme from memory, just like young women all over the world do each week.  I then spoke briefly about the history of the RS.  Then we heard from two lovely senior sister missionaries, one from Utah and the other from Kentucky.  They both shared insights that only women well-seasoned in life experiences could share and they were both delightful and inspirational.  We then played some fun games prepared by the other Erin.  Then we had cake and that was it.

Earlier in the week, I saw some pictures from one of those Martha Stewart RS celebrations on Facebook.  I also spoke to my mother on the phone where she described her ward’s celebration.  I’m pretty sure both of these celebrations were put on by full-time professional RS Birthday Party Planners.  And it made me kind of sick to my stomach when I compared those celebrations to the meager celebration we were planning.  But then during the dinner portion of our celebration today, when I was apologizing to our bishop’s wife who was sitting at the one tableclothless table, and comparing our sad, little party to those in Utah, she said to me, “Erin, you need to let go of your Utah ways and expectations.  Look around this room.  Are the sisters here enjoying the company of their sisterhood in the Gospel?”

“Yes.”

“Are they getting to know one another better so they can better serve one another?”

“Yes.”

“Then you’ve accomplished what this celebrations is intended to accomplish.  We don’t need all the tablecloths and decorations.  No one here is expecting that and trust me, no one here cares that we don’t have it.” And she’s right.  In my previous wards women would spend countless hours and incredible amounts of stress with the same results we achieved.

However, at the end of the celebration, we did hand out a home-made party favor which included a quote and chocolate.  As she took her party favor from the basket, the bishop’s wife said to me “See, you still have some Utah in you!”

Just a little.

Yesterday, my six-year-old daughter had a playdate with a girl from school.  These two girls’ friendship is based solely on the fact that they are both named Elizabeth; which, when you are in 1st grade makes you instant soul-mates, kindred spirits and best friends.  Whereas my Elizabeth only uses her full name at school and at home goes by Ellie, the other Elizabeth goes by Liz all the time.  I’ve decided that the name Liz is much more sophisticated than the name Ellie (think Liz Taylor vs. Ellie Mae Clampett).   Which is probably the reason the child Liz is better behaved than the child Ellie.  It has nothing to do with parenting and everything to do with naming.  No parenting book or expert is going to convince me otherwise.  (Although I’m sure that Ellie Mae Clampett could totally take Liz Taylor in mud wrestling.)

So yesterday I was taking Liz home after the playdate and I walked her up to her apartment and then spent a few minutes talking to her mother, a lovely Chinese woman named Christine (another sophisticated name, much more so than the name Erin.)  During our conversation Christine told me that she loves to have Ellie over and that she would like to have her over more often if possible because every afternoon they have Pie.  This statement caused me to immediately size up Christine’s hips and wonder how on earth someone who has pie every afternoon could possibly be the size 0 that she obviously was.  What kind of freaky Chinese metabolism is that?!

She then said some more things that I didn’t hear because I was completely lost in thought over the pie every afternoon comment when she shook me out of my thought process by introducing me not to the large fruit or cream filled tart I was thinking of, but instead to her Thai domestic helper named Pie (or Pi, or maybe Py, or possibly Pai or maybe even π.  Not sure which she prefers).

I’m certain that if I had a domestic helper named Pie I would weigh 250 lbs. since just the mention of the word gives me a hankerin’.

Mmmm, pie!

This afternoon, as is often the case, I was running late.  I was late leaving the house to drive down the mountain to pick up my 14-year-old daughter from school.  I had to pick her up and take her to the mall to find some very, very, very important Spandex shorts that she could wear under the dress she is modeling in the Taipei American School Charity Fashion Show this Friday evening.  Apparently, if your designer tells you to buy Spandex, especially if said designer is a Senior, you don’t ask why, you just buy the Spandex.  Hence the reason for the trip to the mall.

So, as I said before, I was late leaving the house to drive down the mountain to the school, and I was in a hurry.  Now, there are basically two roads down the mountain (in reality, there is a third, but I’ve only been down it once and I’m embarrassed to admit that I don’t think I could actually find it again.)  The main road is full of goat carts and speed traps so I don’t usually like to go down it.  OK, that’s not actually true.  I completely made that up, except for the “I don’t usually like to go down it” part.  Truth is, the traffic on it can at times be dicey and I have on more than one occasion seen full-sized city buses passing other full-sized city buses on the two lane, double middle lined, serpentine road.  The back road is much faster and has much less traffic and it lets me off very close to the school, so I use it whenever possible.  But many people I know avoid the back road at peril of death and claim that the only thing the back road will get you is dings and side-swipes on your car.

If you read/viewed my husband’s last blog post (which included riveting video footage) you got a good feel for the back road.  And I have to say that when I’m on that scooter by myself I go much, much faster.  It’s quite a thrill-ride and it turns out that at 42 I’m a bit of an endorphin junkie.

Anyway, so I was heading down the back road in my black mafia-mom mini-van and I got to the part, toward the bottom where the road becomes a one-laned, bottleneck mess.  Every time I get to the bottleneck, whether I’m alone in the car or not, I say out loud, “OK everyone, suck it in!”  And then I suck in my gut, hoping that my mini-van will follow my lead and suck in its gut.

So I was going through the bottleneck, sucking in my gut, when I rounded a bend and saw, at the very worst point in the bottleneck, a very large utility truck coming my way, hogging up a good 3/4 of the road.  The gentleman driver (if you can call him that; maybe surly fellow is a better term) saw my van and stopped, opened his window and blew cigarette smoke my direction.  He then gave me a “I ain’t puttin’ this truck in reverse, sistah” look.  With that, I pursed my lips, unrolled my window, pulled in my side-view mirror and shot back a “Bring it on, brothah” look.  I then took my foot off my brake, one second at a time and inched my way past him while he sat and did nothing.

Now here comes my moment of glory; after I finished inching my way past the truck, the people in the taxi that was stopped directly behind the truck unrolled their windows and all four of them, including the driver started clapping their hands and while giving me the thumbs-up sign yelled , in English, “Good Job!!!”

For those few seconds of inching my way through the bottleneck in my black mafia-mom mini-van, I was the back road Rock Star!

Since arriving in Taipei I’ve had my share of embarrassing experiences.  Most of them involve my very sad Mandarin skills or other communication issues.  Here are a few of the many:

Once, while trying to say “I like to eat delicious shrimp” I told my Mandarin teacher, “I like to eat delicious children.”  Her reaction was a dumbfounded look of horror.

Then, this week I thought I would look all smart if I asked the Chinese lady at the information desk at Taipei American School where the nurses office was in Mandarin.  So I got the question all worked out in my head and walked up and asked her.  Perplexed stare.  I asked her again.  Another perplexed stare.  So then I just asked her in English.  Her response in English, “Why did you say it like that?”  My response, “Because I’m a stupid American who can’t speak Mandarin.”

And now for the coup de grâce.  Last night we went to dinner at Taipei 101 with some friends.  After dinner we went to Cold Stone in the food court for some ice cream.  The teenage boy at the cash register wore a name tag which indicated that his English name was “Edge”.  So naturally I asked him if he was a big U2 fan.

Edge:  (expressionless blank stare)

Me:  You know, the rock group, U2!

Edge: (expressionless blank stare)

Me:  U2!  Bono!

Edge: (expressionless blank stare)

Me: (resorting to singing in the food court, with some dance moves thrown in for good measure) ♬It’s all right, it’s all right, it’s all right.  She moves in mysterious ways, oh-h-h.♬

Edge: (slightly wider-eyed expressionless blank stare)

Me: (turning to Shaun, the husband of the couple we were with, who speaks fluent Mandarin) Ask him if his name is after The Edge from U2.

Edge and Shaun: (polite interchange in Mandarin)

Shaun:  He said that Edge is after an American WWF wrestler.

Me:  Well that’s just sad!

Jason:  You’re a complete embarrassment.